Worried about bonding with the baby

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Jun 241 min read

I know this sounds weird but I don't feel that instant connection everyone talks about. My wife seems to have this natural thing with our newborn and I just feel like I'm going through the motions. I change diapers, I feed him, but I'm not getting those butterflies everyone describes. Is there something wrong with me? Does it just take longer for dads to bond? Really needed to get this off my chest because I feel guilty as hell.

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SScottRegularJun 26

Dude, don't worry. I felt exactly the same way at first and I was panicked about it. The connection comes, it just takes time. Sometimes it hits you randomly like 3 months in when they grab your finger. You're doing fine.

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KKyle M.RegularJun 25

This is actually pretty normal and nobody talks about it enough. I didn't get that 'instant love' thing either and felt like something was wrong with me. Turns out I was just exhausted and my brain wasn't wired for instant attachment. Give yourself grace.

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MMatt B.RegularJun 26

The fact that you're worried about it probably means you care more than you think. That's actually a sign you're gonna be fine. The bonding happens through the day to day stuff, not some magical moment on day one.

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