Took 8 weeks after my second son was born and man, going back to the office yesterday was rough. I was actually looking forward to work but then my wife sent me a photo of the baby and I just sat at my desk feeling guilty for like an hour. I know this is normal but has anyone figured out how to actually feel okay about leaving? Or do you just push through it?
8 weeks is solid. How are you handling the adjustment? That first day back hit me like a truck. Felt guilty for missing the morning routine with my youngest.
Congrats on the second son! That transition back is tough but you'll find your new normal. Just remember those 8 weeks did something important even if it doesn't feel like it right now.
That transition is brutal. You've been in dad mode 24/7 and suddenly you're back in work mode. Just remember those eight weeks aren't erased. Keep that energy with your sons even if you're not home as much.
The mental shift is real. Going from being home and fully present to checking your work email first thing in the morning hits different after paternity leave. Took me a couple weeks to find my rhythm again.
Going back is the hardest part but you get used to the rhythm again. Make sure you carve out real time with the boys when you're home though - no half attention. That quality time matters more than quantity when you're working.
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Eight weeks goes by so fast and then reality hits hard. I took time off after my first and coming back to the grind was rough too. The trick is remembering why you're doing it - for your family - but also protecting some of that connection you built during leave.