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Back to office 3 days a week after paternity leave - I'm already losing it

2w ago·1 min read

So I'm 6 weeks into my paternity leave and my company just told me they're bringing everyone back to the office 3 days a week starting next month. My wife is going back to work part time and now we're scrambling to figure out childcare for those days. The daycare waitlist is like 8 months long. I actually love my job but the thought of leaving my daughter 3 days a week is killing me. Did anyone else go through this transition? How did you handle the guilt?

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EEdRegular2w ago

Six weeks back is brutal when you've had that time with the baby. I just went back after paternity leave too and the adjustment is harder than I expected. The guilt is real. But you've got this and your kids will benefit from seeing you balance being a provider and a dad. It gets easier after the first month.

MMitchell R.New Dad2w ago

Going back after that kind of time with your kids is tough. I'm dealing with the same thing right now. Just remember you're not abandoning them, you're providing for them. Try to carve out some solid family time on your days home. That helped me adjust.

BBrandonRegular2w ago

The guilt is so real. But 3 days a week means you still get solid time with your baby. I know it doesn't feel like it right now but you'll find your rhythm. Use your work-from-home days to really be present and it'll balance out.

CChristopherNew Dad2w ago

That transition is the hardest part of being a working dad, honestly. You went from being hands-on every day to suddenly being away for 8+ hours and it messes with your head. Make the time you do have really count. Even if it's just 30 minutes before bed where you're fully present, that matters.