Got offered a big promotion that comes with more travel and longer hours. Money would be great, kids are getting older so tuition is coming. But I'd be gone 3-4 nights a week. My gut says no but my brain keeps doing the math. Wife says it's my decision. How do you guys handle this stuff? Is there a right answer or does everyone just regret their choice no matter what?
Tough call. I turned down a similar thing a few years ago and don't regret it. What does your gut tell you?
The money will help your family but so will your presence. That's the real calculus here.
More travel is rough when you've got kids depending on you. Is there any way to negotiate the hours or travel part of the deal?
Real talk - the job will always be there. Your kids won't always be that age. I've seen guys take those promotions and regret it when they miss half their kids' childhoods.
I'm in a similar spot right now and it's eating at me. The promotion would be great for our financial security but I've already got my older kids in school and I don't want to miss more. What does your gut tell you?
Talk to your wife about it first before you decide. Ask her what she really needs from you. Sometimes the extra money helps more than the time, sometimes it doesn't. Every family is different.
This is the hard one. I turned down a promotion five years ago because the travel would have been brutal with three kids at home. Best decision I ever made. The money is nice but those morning routines and bedtimes? You can't get those back.
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Money's great but you can't get these years back with your kids. I'd ask myself if the promotion is worth missing bedtimes and soccer games.