I'm working 50+ hours a week, trying to be present for three kids, and I feel like I'm failing at both. My boss keeps loading me with stuff, I can't say no without looking like I'm not a team player. My wife is frustrated because I'm checked out when I'm home. I know everyone is dealing with this but man it's hard right now. Wondering if I need to make a change or just push through.
Man, I feel this in my bones. Three kids here too and 50+ hours is a killer. The thing is, you're probably doing better than you think you are. Kids don't need perfect, they need present when you're there. Maybe it's time to have a real talk with your boss about boundaries though, because something's gotta give.
Twins here so different dynamic, but the exhaustion is real. 50 hours plus three kids is a lot on anyone. Have you thought about cutting back hours or looking for a different role that respects your time better? Your mental health matters too, and the kids need that.
I get the burnout, especially with three. One thing that helped me was stopping trying to be 100% at both work and home. You're gonna have some days that lean one way and that's okay. Your kids would rather have a dad who's sane than one who's stretched paper thin.
The 'failing at everything' feeling is real and it's exhausting. You're probably doing better than you think but the burnout makes it impossible to see that. Real talk - you need to make a change because this path doesn't end well.
Fifty plus hours is brutal, especially with three kids. I was there and let me tell you, something had to give. I ended up scaling back work and yeah, tighter budget, but I'm actually present now instead of a zombie. How's your company culture about reducing hours?
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I feel this in my bones. Working those hours with three kids is unsustainable. Something has to shift - whether it's work, schedule, or expectations. You can't pour from an empty cup and right now your cup is bone dry.
Talk to your boss about your workload instead of just accepting it. Seriously. Most companies don't even realize their people are drowning until someone speaks up. You're not failing, the situation is impossible.