Can't stop checking email at 9pm

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1w ago1 min read

I know I should put the phone down but there's always that one more thing. Kid goes to bed at 8, I tell myself I'll just relax, then I'm scrolling through messages until midnight. Waking up exhausted. Wife is pissed because I'm grumpy and tired all the time. This is my own problem right? Like nobody is making me do this. How do you guys actually set boundaries with yourselves?

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MMarco R.New Dad1w ago

That hour after bedtime is supposed to be your reset though. If you're spending it on email you're just extending work day into family time, just silently. Set a hard cutoff or you'll burn out.

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DDanielRegular1w ago

I'm right there with you at 9pm every night. Kid asleep, wife heading to bed, and suddenly I'm deep in my inbox like that one email is going to solve my problems. It's become a comfort thing at this point, which is probably not great but at least I'm aware of it.

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KKevin M.New Dad1w ago

The thing is there's ALWAYS one more thing. Always. I finally had to put my phone in another room after 8:30 because I was checking it unconsciously. Wife called me out and she was right. It was stealing my actual downtime.

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