Career stalling because I won't work 60 hour weeks anymore | DadHQ

Career stalling because I won't work 60 hour weeks anymore

3w ago1 min read

Been at my company 8 years and was on track for promotion. Then I had kids and honestly I just don't want to work like that anymore. I do my job well in 40-45 hours but apparently that's not enough to move up. My boss basically said I need to show more commitment. What's really eating me is I feel like I'm letting my family down by not pushing harder, but I'm also missing so much by working all the time. Is this just how it is or are there companies that actually value dads who want balance?

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Comments(7)

EEric M.Regular3w ago

I feel you on this one. After three kids, I realized no promotion is worth missing the everyday stuff. You're doing your job well and showing up for your family, that's what matters.

KKevinRegular3w ago

Man, this hits home with the soccer schedule and homework every night. Quality work during reasonable hours is still quality work. The promotion will either come on your terms or it won't, but you'll be present either way.

MMarvin T.Regular3w ago

Eight years in and choosing your family over the grind takes guts. The right company will eventually respect that boundary, and honestly the ones that don't aren't worth it anyway.

AAdam R.Regular3w ago

Eight years at a place and they won't work with you on hours after you have kids? That's on them, not you. There are companies out there that value good people more than face time.

BBrad M.Regular3w ago

The career stall thing is real but you have to think long term. You're building something way more important right now. The promotions will still be there when the kids are older if you want them.

MMatt R.Regular3w ago

This hits home. I realized pretty quick after my son was born that I didn't want to grind like that anymore. Some promotions just aren't worth the cost. Your kids won't remember your title.

JJoeRegular3w ago

You're not crazy for changing your priorities after having kids. Honestly sounds like maybe it's time to look around and see what else is out there that respects your boundaries.