Another late night at the office. Third time this week. My 7 year old asked why I missed his baseball game and I had no good answer. I know my job is important but why does it feel like I'm constantly choosing between being a good employee and a good dad? Anyone else deal with this guilt?
That guilt is real, but you showing up and being honest about it matters more than you think. I work late too and try to make the games I can, but my kids remember when I'm present, not just when I'm there.
That hits different when they ask about it. I've been there with my 7 year old too. The guilt is real but try to make the next game special - maybe take him out for ice cream after and let him talk about it. Those small moments matter.
Late nights are brutal. I'd maybe have a honest conversation with him about why you're working late and pick one game a week that's non-negotiable for you to be at? My kids respond better when they know there's a plan.
Third time in one week is rough. Can you shift your schedule on game nights or negotiate with work to at least get those specific dates? Your kid will remember you showing up way more than he'll remember anything else.
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I've been there missing games and it stings. What helped me was picking specific events I won't miss and being upfront with my boss about those. Quality over quantity when you do show up.