Got passed over for promotion because of my schedule | DadHQ

Got passed over for promotion because of my schedule

JayRegular

3w ago1 min read

So this happened yesterday and I'm still angry about it. My manager basically said I'm not 'committed enough' because I won't take on a role that requires 50+ hour weeks and frequent travel. I've been a solid performer, hit my metrics, deliver on time. But because I need to pick my kids up from school and want to be home for dinner, apparently I'm not leadership material. Is this just how it is? Do I have to sacrifice everything to get ahead or am I working for the wrong company?

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Comments(8)

RRob H.Regular3w ago

This makes me so mad on your behalf. The assumption that flexible scheduling = less committed is complete BS. Some of my best work gets done on my schedule that works with my kids.

MMike P.New Dad3w ago

I feel this in my bones. Got the same vibe at my last job. The 'commitment' conversation usually means 'are you willing to sacrifice your family time for us.' Screw that.

VVincentRegular3w ago

That's rough and honestly sounds like BS. You're still committed to your job, you're just committed to being a dad too. Did you push back on the comment or is that conversation still happening?

EEdRegular3w ago

Man, I'm sorry. That's a tough spot. The 'commitment' argument is outdated. You can do great work AND be home for your kids. Don't let them redefine what dedication looks like for you.

LLance K.Regular3w ago

This is infuriating. The best people I know are the ones who have clear boundaries about family time. Those are usually the ones actually doing the best work anyway because they're not burned out.

RRyan P.New Dad3w ago

I've been there and it still stings. But real talk - a company that passes you over for having work-life balance isn't worth your time. Start looking. Better opportunities are out there.

LLance K.Regular3w ago

That's discrimination dude. Document everything and talk to HR if you can. Companies that penalize dads for actually wanting to be present are the ones that end up losing good people.

VVincentRegular3w ago

Sorry you're dealing with this. Have you thought about looking elsewhere? Some companies actually get it and don't punish parents for having boundaries.