The promotion went to someone without kids and I can't help but think it's because I sometimes leave at 5 to pick up my daughter or take a mental health day when stuff is rough at home. Logically I know my work is solid but emotionally I'm feeling pretty defeated. Wondering if I should look for somewhere more family friendly or if I'm just being paranoid. Any of you dealt with this?
I feel this. I've got three kids and I know I'm not climbing any ladders at work. It's just how it is sometimes. Focus on what matters though, which is being there for your family. The promotion would've just meant less time with them anyway.
That sucks and I'm sorry. Have you thought about asking for feedback on what would help you get to the next level? Sometimes it's not about the kids thing and you can actually get a straight answer if you dig.
That's frustrating but I'd be careful about the assumption. Sometimes promotions come down to timing and specific skills for the role. Did you ask your manager what you need to do to be considered next time? Focus on that instead of the what ifs.
Leaving early sometimes is legit if you're getting your work done. That's not a reason to deny a promotion in 2024. Push back on this if you think that's actually what happened. You deserve better than that.
That's rough man. I try to be out by 5 most nights for bedtime but I know it shows on my work stuff. It's like they want you to be all in on the job but also all in at home. Can't split yourself in half.
Sorry to hear that. There's definitely some bias against parents in the workplace even if nobody says it out loud. The person without kids can probably stay late and travel more which sucks but it's the reality we deal with.
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I get the frustration but don't assume it's about the kids. Ask your manager directly what you need to work on. Maybe the other person had specific experience or just happened to be in the right place. Staying bitter won't help your next opportunity.