How do you actually manage stress with kids at home?

Working from home with a 4 and 2 year old running around during the day is absolutely wild. My wife handles most of it but I still hear screaming during my calls, I'm trying to focus on spreadsheets while someone's asking for a snack, and by the time bedtime happens I'm so mentally fried I can't be present. I love being around my kids but this is killing me. Do other guys actually manage this or are we all just white knuckling through the day?