I had to miss my son's soccer game yesterday because of a client call that ran over. He didn't say much but I could tell he noticed I wasn't there. I make decent money now after the promotion but I feel like I'm trading it for time I'm never getting back. Some nights I lie awake thinking about this stuff. Does it get easier or is this just part of being a working parent?
The guilt is real, but one missed game isn't what defines you as a dad. What matters is you're thinking about it and that he knows you care. Try to catch the next one.
I feel this in my soul. Single parent schedule is brutal sometimes but I've learned that showing up consistently overall matters more than perfection. Talk to him about it when things calm down.
The guilt is real and honestly it never fully goes away, but here's what I've learned across two households - your kids know you're trying. I miss stuff too because of work, and what matters is how you show up the next time. Maybe plan something special with your son about the game? Let him tell you all about it.
This hits different when you've got the schedule juggling that comes with coparenting. But I've realized the kids notice when you're present more than they notice when you're absent. One missed game sucks but it's not defining. Don't let it spiral into bigger guilt than it deserves.
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Man, I feel this. Missed my youngest's recital last month for the same reason. The guilt ate at me for days but you know what helped? I talked to my son about it. Told him dad messes up sometimes but it doesn't change how much I love watching him do his thing. Kids are more understanding than we give them credit for.