Is remote work ruining my relationship with my kids?

3w ago·1 min read

I work from home 4 days a week and I thought it would be perfect. But honestly the lines between work and dad time have gotten so blurry. I'm in back to back meetings while they're doing online school in the next room and even though I'm physically there I'm not really present. My wife is frustrated because she's still doing most of the parenting during the day even though I'm home. How do other remote dads actually make this work?

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Comments(4)

RRyan P.New Dad3w ago

This is the trap nobody talks about enough. You're physically home but mentally you're at work, so the kids know you're not really available. Have you tried setting hard off-hours like no work after 5?

LLance K.Regular3w ago

Honestly the relationship part gets better once they're older and understand you're working. Right now your toddler just sees dad ignoring them which sucks for everyone. It gets easier.

NNate B.Regular3w ago

The kids don't understand what work from home actually means. To them you're just ignoring them in the next room. I'd suggest a visual schedule so they know when they can actually have your attention.

TTony M.Regular3w ago

Four days remote is tough because they see the door closed and think you can pop out whenever. The line blur is real. Maybe pick certain times where you're fully theirs, like lunch or after school wind down?