Took 4 weeks off when my second was born and it was amazing. Now I'm back to the office 3 days a week and some days I feel like I'm just going through the motions. The weird part is I actually miss my kids during the day but when I get home I'm too tired to really be present with them. Anyone else deal with this guilt? Like I'm failing at both fronts right now.
That transition back is rough, man. The bedtime routine hits different when you're doing it half the time instead of all the time. It gets easier but those first few weeks are tough.
I feel you. Going back after 4 weeks is rough. My suggestion: plan something with the kids for that first week back, gives you something to look forward to after work. Helps the transition.
That first week back is the hardest. Second time around too because you know exactly what you're missing at home. But it does get easier. You got this.
Those 4 weeks fly by and yeah coming back sucks. Try to remember you're still involved, just in a different way now. Quality over quantity has to be the mindset.
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Three days a week is still a lot to adjust to after being home. I get that going through the motions feeling - it'll click back into place soon enough, just give yourself some grace during the adjustment.