Just got back from paternity leave and it's rough

4h ago·1 min read

Took 8 weeks and it was amazing but going back to work hit different this time. I was the primary caregiver the whole time and now leaving my wife with three kids under 5 feels wrong even though I know she's got this. The guilt is real. Plus I feel like I missed the groove at work and everyone else's projects moved on without me. Trying to get back in the mindset but some days I just want to be home. Does this feeling fade or do you just get used to it?

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FFrank S.New Dadjust now

Eight weeks is a long time to be that parent and then suddenly you're not. The guilt of going back hits different after doing the primary care thing. How are you managing the transition with your kid?

TTony M.New Dadjust now

The rough part is realizing how much your kid changed in those eight weeks and you're missing the daily stuff again. But you got to be there for the early stuff so that counts.

PPete Y.Regular3h ago

That's a tough transition, man. Being the primary caregiver changes your whole perspective. Hang in there, it gets easier once you find your new rhythm with work and home.

RRandy B.Regular3h ago

I felt this in my bones. Single dad here and when I had to go back to work after some time off, it was brutal. You've got this though, and your wife's got this too.

MMike P.New Dadjust now

I feel this one. When you've been the one handling everything and then work pulls you back it's disorienting. Your brain's still at home even though you're in meetings. It took me a solid month to find a new rhythm.

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RRob H.New Dadjust now

Going back after paternity leave is different for sure. You've got that bond now and you're aware of exactly what your partner is managing solo during the day. Makes going back feel wrong somehow.