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Just got offered a promotion but it means more travel

PhilRegular

1w ago1 min read

So my boss just offered me a senior position that comes with a 30% raise. Sounds great right? But it requires me to be in the office 4 days a week instead of my current 2, plus quarterly travel. My kids are 4 and 7 and my wife works too. I feel like I'm finally getting ahead career-wise but I'm terrified of missing out on their childhood. We're not hurting for money either. Has anyone else turned down a promotion for family reasons? Did you regret it?

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SScottRegular1w ago

This is the trap right here. More money but less time with the kids. I turned down a similar thing two years ago and haven't regretted it once. Your family is only young once man.

AAdam R.Regular1w ago

I'd sit down with your wife and really map out what that travel looks like month to month. Some jobs say 30% travel and it's actually like 15% if you're lucky. Get the real details before you decide.

JJosephNew Dad1w ago

Counter offer. Tell them you'll take the position at current travel levels or suggest you bring in your own remote team to reduce the flying. Good companies will negotiate on stuff like this.

JJosephNew Dad1w ago

Congratulations on the offer but yeah, I get it. 30% raise sounds nice until you realize you're missing bedtime stories and school pickups. What does your family think about the travel schedule?

KKyle M.Regular1w ago

That 30% raise hits different when you're a dad. Do the math on what you'd actually see after taxes and childcare increases. Then ask yourself if you want to miss bedtimes for it. I turned one down for similar reasons.

EEric M.Regular1w ago

Travel is a killer. I took a promotion that had me gone one week a month and regretted it immediately. By the time I got home I was useless and my wife was burnt out solo parenting.

EEric M.Regular1w ago

Pizza night is sacred in our house. I wouldn't trade that for anything. Figure out what's sacred in yours and see if this job lets you keep it.