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Just took a week off for paternity leave and honestly terrified to go back

3w ago·1 min read

Second kid just born and I'm on leave this week. Bonding with the newborn has been amazing but I'm dreading Monday. My boss already sent me two emails asking about projects. I know they're going to pile stuff on me the second I'm back and my wife is going to need help with two kids under 3. How do guys actually manage this without burning out? Any tips for setting boundaries when you get back?

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Comments(5)

PPaulRegular3w ago

Congrats on the second! Honestly the hardest part about going back is the emotional whiplash of being so present and then suddenly not being able to see them all day. But you'll adjust.

TTyler K.Regular3w ago

The fact that you're bonding hard with your second kid is what matters right now. Work will still be there Monday, and honestly those first weeks go by so fast you'll want them back.

WWalter T.Regular3w ago

Those emails on your first week back are brutal, man. I get that dread, but try to remember your boss managed before you and will manage while you're gone. First week back is always the hardest with a newborn at home.

DDanielExperienced3w ago

That anxiety is totally normal but here's the thing: you're coming back to a team that knows you're a solid worker. One week of leave isn't going to undo that. Also your second kid is going to need you to work, so balance it out mentally before you go back.

JJoshuaExperienced3w ago

Your boss will understand. Most reasonable managers know paternity leave is temporary and you're still the same employee. Document what you're worried about and circle back to it next week when you're less tired.