Just turned down a promotion and I feel weird about it

Nov 21·1 min read

So I got offered a regional manager position at work today. More money, better title, everything I thought I wanted 5 years ago. But it would mean traveling 2-3 weeks a month and my son is only 6. I have memories of my own dad being gone all the time and I didn't want that for my kids. Said no to the promotion.

My wife thinks it's the right call but I'm having this nagging doubt like I'm being weak or something? Is this normal or am I just having cold feet?

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Comments(6)

VVic G.Regular3h ago

Respect for being honest about the pattern with your own dad. Took guts to actually make a different choice instead of justifying it away. Your kid will remember that you were around.

KKent R.Regular20h ago

Good call. 2-3 weeks a month away when he's 6 is the exact opposite of what you want. You made the right choice even if it sucks in the moment.

DDan W.Regularjust now

The 'everything I thought I wanted 5 years ago' feeling is real. Life changes when you have kids and what matters shifts. Sounds like you actually figured out what matters to you.

VVic H.Regularjust now

How did your boss take it? That's the awkward part - turning down promotion usually affects future opportunities at a place.

DDale J.Regularjust now

Did you consider negotiating the travel down? Like what if you said yes but wanted it modified to 1 week/month instead? Sometimes they'll work with you on that.

KKenny W.Regular7h ago

This is real - kids need consistency more than money. My dad traveled constantly for work and I genuinely felt abandoned even though he was 'providing.' You're breaking that cycle which is huge.