Just went back to work after 2 months paternity leave and I'm already regretting it | DadHQ

Just went back to work after 2 months paternity leave and I'm already regretting it

6d ago1 min read

Man, being home with my newborn was incredible even though I was exhausted 24/7. Now I'm back at the office and my boss has me on 3 different projects. My wife texts me photos of our son hitting milestones and I'm stuck in meetings that could have been emails. Anyone else struggle with that guilt of missing out? I know we need my income but it's killing me. I'm trying to do the remote work days thing but honestly my apartment is loud and I can't focus.

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LLuke M.New Dad4d ago

That first week back is brutal man. I felt the same way when I returned after my paternity leave. The thing that helped me was setting a hard stop time on work stuff. No emails after 6pm unless it's actually urgent. Your mental health is worth more than answering Slack at 8pm.

AAlexRegular6d ago

The regret fades once you get into a rhythm, trust me. I was the same way coming back. Just remind yourself you're doing this for your family and set some hard stops on work time so you can be present at home too.

SSam P.Regular6d ago

That transition back is rough, man. Three projects right out of the gate seems like your boss is testing the waters. I'd try to have a chat about priorities before you burn out - those first months back are already a mental adjustment.

JJason K.Regular6d ago

Dude I feel this. Those two months spoil you because you're 100% present with your kid, then suddenly you're context switching all day. Coffee's my best friend during the readjustment period, but it gets easier after a few weeks.

JJayson H.New Dad5d ago

I went through this exact thing. The guilt is real but remember you're providing for your family by working. You can still be present during off hours. Set boundaries with your employer and stick to them.

MMikeNew Dad5d ago

Two months is amazing though. A lot of dads don't get that much time. The regret will fade once you find your rhythm between work and home. It gets easier, I promise.