Passed over for promotion again

Mar 61 min read

This is my third year at the company and they just promoted someone I trained to senior manager. My boss said I'm valued but I don't have the 'availability' right now because I have young kids. So basically being a dad is holding me back. I work hard, deliver results, but apparently that's not enough if I won't stay until 9pm every night. Trying to figure out if I should find somewhere else or just accept I'm not going to move up while the kids are little.

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Comments(8)

KKevin M.RegularMar 8

This is exactly why I started my side hustle. Not saying you need to do that, but sometimes companies don't value people until they're willing to walk. Your skills are worth more than a third pass-over.

VVictor R.New DadMar 8

That's brutal man. Trained them yourself and they still got promoted over you? I'd be looking at other companies. Sometimes your current employer has already decided how high they'll let you go and no amount of good work changes that.

SSam T.RegularMar 7

I feel this. When you're the workhorse they just keep using you in your role instead of promoting you because you're too valuable where you are. Sometimes you gotta force their hand by getting offers elsewhere.

JJames H.RegularMar 6

Three years in and they're basically saying you're doing great work but can't commit more hours? I'd be looking around if I were you, honestly.

ZZack M.RegularMar 6

That's frustrating man, especially after training the person who got the spot. Sounds like a conversation about what 'availability' actually means for your role might be worth having with your boss.

MMike R.RegularMar 7

Three years and they're still not seeing your value? Sounds like it might be time to have a real conversation with management about what you need to see for advancement. Or honestly, start interviewing elsewhere. Your market value is probably higher than what they're treating it.

MMike R.RegularMar 7

Three years and three times passed over sounds like a pattern. Before you get too frustrated maybe ask HR for specific feedback on what's holding you back? Could be something fixable or could be a sign to move on. Don't waste more time if they don't see your value.

JJason T.RegularMar 7

That's rough man, really sorry. I've been there with the frustration of training someone who jumps ahead. Have you thought about looking around at other companies? Sometimes your loyalty to one place doesn't get rewarded the way it should.