Just went back after 3 months with my second kid. Bonding time was incredible but now I'm terrified I'm gonna miss everything. Got some flexibility worked out but I still feel guilty. Also my brain feels scrambled like I forgot how to work. Anyone else deal with this transition?
That flexibility is going to be huge, man. I went back after my second too and yeah, the FOMO is real, but those 4pm pickups and backyard time after work? That's where the magic happens. You got this.
Three months is amazing. The fact that you're worried about missing stuff means you're already the dad who won't miss what matters. Lean into that flexibility and make the evenings count.
That fear is legit. Three months is long enough that work feels foreign again. You bonded like crazy with your kid though - hold onto that. The work stress will settle down but what you built those three months, that stays.
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Honestly the transition back is the hardest part. Give yourself two weeks to find the rhythm again. You've done this before and you'll do it again. But those three months with your kid? That's permanent.
I'm about to go back in a few weeks and this is what I'm terrified of. How bad did it actually get? Like are you struggling with the kids at night now or is it just adjusting to work load?