Promoted but it means more travel. Help me think this through

2w ago1 min read

Got offered a director role that comes with maybe 30% travel. Kids are 7, 5, and 2. I'd make significantly more money which we could use for college funds and paying off the house faster. But I'd miss a lot. My wife is supportive either way but I can tell she's stressed about managing three kids solo some weeks. This feels like it could be a turning point for our family but I don't want to regret missing the early years. What would you do?

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RRick M.Regular2w ago

The financial bump is real though. What's your current income situation? Sometimes that extra money actually gives you more options later like hiring help or reducing hours elsewhere. Don't just look at the travel number in isolation.

LLuke M.Regular2w ago

Just went through this decision myself and chose to take it. Depends on your family setup, support system, and honestly your own temperament. If you thrive on career challenges it might be worth it. If you're already running on fumes, probably not.

CChristopherNew Dad2w ago

Big decision man. I coach soccer on top of everything else so I'm always balancing work time with family time. Only you know if that trade-off feels right, but don't discount what you'd miss out on with the kids that young.

MMarcusNew Dad2w ago

Congrats on the promotion, that's huge. With three little ones I get the pull - the money would help but 30% travel with a 2 year old is no joke. What does your gut say about missing bedtimes and the daily stuff?

BBrent M.New Dad2w ago

That's a tough one. More money is real but so are those early years with a 7, 5, and 2 year old. Maybe talk to the hiring manager about whether that 30% is flexible or negotiable?

NNolan D.Regular2w ago

I turned down a similar opportunity last year and honestly don't regret it. 30% travel sounds manageable on paper but with a 2-year-old, 5, and 7? You'll miss things. The money isn't worth it if you're already feeling stretched thin.

RRyan M.Regular2w ago

Ask them about flexibility with the travel. Some director roles let you cluster trips or negotiate certain weeks off limits. My buddy got a similar promotion and negotiated no travel during school year. Worth exploring before you decide.