Promotion means more travel and I don't know if I should take it

JoeRegular

Apr 23·1 min read

Got offered a big bump in title and salary but it comes with weekly travel, sometimes 2-3 nights a week. My wife is supportive but my oldest is 7 and asking when daddy's coming home. The money would be huge for us. We could finally fix up the house and actually save. But I feel like I'd be missing everything. Did anyone take a promotion that required more travel? Do you regret it? My gut is saying no but my bank account is screaming yes.

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MMarcusNew DadApr 24

Co-parenting across two households has taught me that presence matters way more than a paycheck. The travel means you're gone for bedtimes, school stuff, random moments. Can you negotiate the travel requirement down before accepting?

PPedroRegularApr 23

What does your gut tell you when you imagine doing that 3 nights a week consistently? That's the real answer. I know the bump is tempting but talk to your family first about what they need from you.

BBen D.RegularApr 23

That's a tough one. 2-3 nights a week away means you miss a lot of bedtimes and mornings. At 7 he's still in that phase where your presence really matters. Maybe counter-offer for less travel or a trial period?

BBrian L.RegularApr 23

Money's nice but you can't get those years back with your oldest. I'd ask what it really looks like month to month before you commit. Some promotions aren't worth what you have to give up.

EEricRegularApr 24

I'd really think hard about what you're missing out on. I turned down a similar opportunity a few years back and honestly no regret. The money isn't worth being that absent from your kids' lives, especially during the week when they need you most.