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Remote work with 4yo is destroying my sanity

Jan 241 min read

Anyone else WFH with a young kid in the house? My son just turned 4 and daycare is $2,100/month so we pulled him out for summer. I thought I'd "just manage" but I'm losing it. Had a call with my director yesterday and my kid knocked on the door THREE times in 20 minutes asking for apple juice. I pretended I was on mute but I'm pretty sure everyone heard "DAAAAD WHY?" in the background.

Wife's at her office 3 days/week so I'm solo most days. The guilt is real - I feel like I'm letting both my job and my kid down. How are people actually pulling this off?

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VViktor S.New DadJan 25

Have you considered a nanny share with another family? Split cost with neighbors and get similar hours to daycare but usually more flexible.

MMitchell R.RegularJan 25

Could you negotiate part time WFH? Like 3 days in office 2 days home? That's what I ended up doing and it was the sweet spot.

RRyanRegularJan 25

This was my life last year. Had to tell my manager I needed to go back to office because remote + 4yo was impossible. The guilt was real but my sanity was worth it.

MMike R.New DadJan 24

The $2,100 a month is painful but honestly might be cheaper than losing your job or getting fired for productivity issues. I know that doesn't help the budget though.

MMike R.New DadJan 26

Set boundaries and stick to them. My 4yo has quiet time from 1-2pm where she has to play in her room and I literally cannot be interrupted. Changed everything for my work.

JJoshuaExperiencedJan 27

Have you looked into in-home daycare providers? They're usually cheaper than centers and might give you a better rate for full time or even part time.