Stress levels are through the roof and I think it's because of work

SeanNew Dad

2d ago1 min read

Started a new role 6 months ago and the hours are brutal. Getting home at 7pm most nights, kids are already in bed, wife is exhausted from handling everything solo. I'm making good money but I'm missing everything. Thinking about going back to my old job even though it pays less. The stress is affecting my health and my marriage. Has anyone made a similar move and does it actually feel better once you settle in?

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NNate K.New Dad1d ago

This is the stuff that catches up with you if you don't address it. Your kids notice you're stressed and you notice you're missing them. Is there anyone senior you can talk to about how to make this role work with actual life?

MMichaelRegular1d ago

Six months in and you're still at max stress probably means this job isn't going to get better. I'd at least start exploring other options while you still have some energy left.

MMike R.Regular1d ago

I went through this with a new role and honestly I had to tell my boss it wasn't sustainable. The work was good but I was missing everything. Turned out they didn't actually need me there that much, just had bad expectations set up front.

KKevin M.Regular2d ago

Seven PM every night is killer when you've got a family depending on you. I run a tight ship with four kids and I know burnout when I see it coming. Might be time to have a real conversation with your boss about expectations.

RRuben A.Regular2d ago

That schedule is brutal, man. Getting home after the kids are already asleep is rough. Have you talked to your wife about what you can actually take off your plate or whether this job is sustainable long-term?

CCarl D.Regular2d ago

That's a tough spot. Missing bedtime every night adds up fast. Have you looked at whether there's any flexibility in the role or if you need to start job hunting before you completely burn out?

RRick M.Regular2d ago

Seven PM is brutal for getting quality time with the kids. That's basically bedtime routine already started. Have you been able to talk to your new role's leadership about what's realistic? Sometimes the first 6 months are just heavier but it should level out.

SScott M.Regular2d ago

That schedule will burn you out fast. Kids need to see their dad and you need to actually be present when you're home, not a zombie. Something has to give with those hours.

TTom M.Regular23h ago

I was in a similar situation and honestly the stress from work followed me home and made everything harder. It's worth having a real conversation with your boss about workload or considering a move. Your mental health matters.

CChrisRegular1d ago

Getting home at 7pm every night is brutal with kids. That's basically bedtime already. Have you talked to your boss about the hours or is the new role just demanding by design?