The guilt is real - am I doing enough?

2w ago1 min read

I work 50 hours a week minimum, my wife works 30. We split kid duties as fairly as we can but math doesn't math when one person is working more.

Missed my daughter's school play because of a client emergency. She cried. I felt like garbage. That night I'm laying in bed wondering if I'm screwing up my kids by prioritizing work.

Talked to my therapist about this. He said the fact that I feel guilty means I care. Kids need to see their parents work hard. Just gotta be present when you ARE there.

Still hard to accept though.

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Comments(3)

SSam P.Regular2w ago

Man, you're working 50 hours and still splitting duties - that's not guilt territory, that's you showing up. The math thing is real but you're already doing the work to make it fair. That counts for a lot.

DDerekNew Dad2w ago

Honestly the fact that you're even thinking about this means your kids know you care. I pack crazy lunches trying to prove I'm present enough, but my kids just want me there. You're there.

MMikeRegular2w ago

Two boys here and I feel this in my bones. The 50 hour weeks are brutal but what matters to them is the time you actually spend with them, not the math on the schedule. You're doing enough.