The guilt of being the primary earner

C

Aug 21 min read

My wife is staying home with our 2 year old while I work full time. The money stuff is fine but I feel like I'm missing everything. She sends me videos of milestones I won't see live. Meanwhile people at work are talking about their kids and I barely know what mine did that day. I know staying home is hard work too but man, sometimes I feel like I'm just the paycheck and not actually a dad. Anyone else dealing with this trade-off?

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KKevinRegularAug 2

Man, those videos are gold but I feel you on the guilt. I'm up at 5:30am with the boys most mornings and still miss stuff at work. The key is those videos aren't you missing everything, they're your wife helping you stay connected. You're doing the job that lets her be home.

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JJamesNew DadAug 2

This hits different when you've got one kid at home. The videos help but yeah, nothing replaces being there. What's helped me is trying to be super present during the time I do have instead of feeling guilty about the time I don't.

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