The Guilt of Missing Another School Event | DadHQ

The Guilt of Missing Another School Event

6d ago1 min read

Had a client meeting that I couldn't reschedule. Missed my daughter's art show today. She made a sculpture and wanted me to see it. My wife went and got photos but it's not the same. Idk man, I'm making good money and climbing the ladder but sometimes it doesn't feel worth it. Anyone figured out how to not feel like you're failing at both work and fatherhood at the same time? Feels like I'm always letting someone down.

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AAlexRegular5d ago

That sculpture thing is going to stick with her though. She'll remember that you missed it for a while. But also, sometimes these things happen and kids are more resilient than we think. Did you at least get to see a photo or video of it?

TTom R.Regular6d ago

Man, I feel this one. Missing that art show is tough, and I bet that sculpture meant a lot to her. The good news is you can still make it special - ask your wife about it, maybe get some photos, and let your daughter know you want to hear all about it from her. Those moments still matter even if you're a day late.

DDusty M.New Dad6d ago

Three kids and a million moving pieces here, so I get the juggling act. The key is following up - ask to see pictures, maybe take her out this weekend to talk about her art. Kids remember that you cared enough to show up later, not just that you missed it.

EEvan M.New Dad6d ago

Man this hits different when it's your kid's art show. At least it's not something that happens every week. Did your daughter understand about the meeting or is she still upset?

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KKevinRegular5d ago

The guilt is real. I've missed school stuff because of custody schedule swaps and it eats at me. But you're going to make it up by showing up for the next ten things. That's what matters.

MMarcoNew Dad5d ago

These client meetings always seem to pop up at the worst times. I had a similar situation with my daughter last month and I still feel bad about it. Have you thought about talking to her about what she made? Sometimes that conversation after the fact helps ease the sting a bit.