Took paternity leave and feeling the guilt

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Aug 11 min read

I'm on week 3 of my 8 week paternity leave and my boss keeps texting me about ongoing projects. Nothing urgent, just checking in. Part of me wants to help because I care about my team but I know if I start responding it defeats the purpose of being here. My wife says I should ignore them but the anxiety is real. Anyone else deal with this guilt?

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JJoshuaExperiencedAug 1

Set a boundary with your boss now. Tell them you're checking in once a week at a specific time, then don't answer otherwise. You took leave for a reason. The guilt is normal but it's not productive.

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JJoeRegularAug 1

This is so real. I got promoted right before my second kid was born and I felt like I had to prove I was still invested in work. You're not. You're on leave. Enjoy it and don't let guilt steal this time from you and your family.

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JJasonRegularAug 2

Week 3 is still early, man. Your boss will survive without you for a few more weeks. I had the same guilt when I took my time with my daughter, but honestly those early weeks go so fast. Put the phone down and be present. The projects will still be there in 5 weeks.

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