Had 6 weeks off with my second kid and it was incredible. But now I'm heading back Monday and my boss has been asking about the big project I'll be jumping into. I feel like I'm going to miss so much with the baby. My coworkers without kids don't get why I'm anxious about this. The money is good and I can't afford to not work but man, leaving them today was rough.
Jumping back into work mode after paternity leave is rough, but you're coming back stronger knowing what's important. Your boss will understand you need a couple days to get back in the groove.
I coach little league and every time I'm away from the field for work, I feel that same anxiety. But you've done the hard part already - enjoyed those 6 weeks. Now just take it one day at a time getting back.
The big project will be there Monday, but those 6 weeks are gone forever. You got to be present for your second kid and that's what matters. The work stress is normal but you've got this.
I worry about this kind of stuff all the time with my commute and three kids at home. The hardest part is that first week back. After that your routine kicks in and it's easier to manage.
The anxiety about going back is totally normal. You've been in a completely different headspace for six weeks. Give yourself some grace during the adjustment period. It'll get easier.
What's your boss saying about the transition back? Sometimes knowing that there's actual flexibility or understanding on the other end helps with the anxiety.
I'm actually heading back Monday too and same anxiety. Six weeks with my newborn was everything. Just remember those moments when you're back at your desk. You're not the same guy who left, and your boss probably knows that.
Six weeks is such a gift but man that transition back is tough. I remember that feeling before going back after my first kid. Just remember that those memories you made are worth it even if work feels weird for a bit.
The transition back is rough but you got this. My advice: establish boundaries immediately. Don't slide back into old habits just because you're back in the office. Your kids are still at home needing you present, even if you're at work.
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That guilt hits hard but it fades once you get into a rhythm. The paternity leave time was special but you'll find new ways to connect when you're back. Nights and weekends become more intentional.