Just got back from a 3-day conference and I'm a wreck. Missed bedtime twice, my wife looked dead inside when I called to check in, and my 4yo asked why I don't love them as much as my job. He didn't say it like that, but that's what it felt like. I know travel is part of my role and we need my salary, but the guilt is crushing me. How do you guys make peace with this? Or do you just... not?
The 1 and 4 combo with solo parent is genuinely tough. Is the conference something you can decline going forward or do you need a different solution for coverage?
Real talk: can you bring the family next year or does your employer have backup childcare options? Three days with a 1yo solo is not sustainable long term.
I feel this in my bones. Came back from a work trip once and my wife had the look. We had to make some hard decisions about what travel was actually necessary after that.
Missing bedtime sucks but two kids that young? Your wife probably needed you more than the kids did on day three. That's the exhaustion hitting different.
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Three days is rough with that age gap. Your wife being dead inside is the real signal here. That's the conversation to have about whether this travel situation is sustainable.