Turned down a promotion because of my kids

SeanNew Dad

1w ago1 min read

I'm probably the only guy here who did this but it felt right. New role would've been 20% travel, longer hours, more pressure. My kids are 5, 7, and 9. They need me here. I've seen guys take these promotions and their families fall apart. Yeah the money would've been nice, another 30k a year. But my kids saying "Dad, are you coming to my game?" means more to me. Talked to my boss about other growth opportunities that don't require travel. Felt good standing up for my priorities. Some guys probably think I'm wasting my career. Honestly don't care anymore.

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Comments(6)

KKevin M.New Dad1w ago

You're not the only one. I turned down extra responsibilities that would've required more travel too. At some point the money just doesn't matter as much as being present for them.

BBen H.Regular1w ago

That takes guts to say no to that kind of money and title. Respect. Your kids will remember you being around way more than they'd remember the extra paycheck.

EEdRegular1w ago

You're definitely not the only one. I turned down a regional manager gig two years ago for basically the same reason. Those years when they're 5-9 go fast, man. The promotion will still be there later if you want it.

NNateNew Dad1w ago

Nailed it. I learned the hard way that being present beats being absent and successful. You made the right call.

SStevenRegular1w ago

Do you feel like it was the right decision in hindsight? I sometimes wonder if I'm leaving money on the table by not pushing for advancement.

PPedroRegular1w ago

That takes guts but it sounds like you made the right call for your family. 20% travel adds up quick when you've got little ones.