Wife just got a big promotion = I'm gonna have to step up more

Jan 22·1 min read

Which is great! I'm genuinely proud of her. But also... she's now working 50-55 hour weeks and traveling monthly. We had a pretty even split on kid stuff but that's about to get a lot less even. I'm planning to adjust my schedule but realistically it means less time on my own projects and more daycare pickup and dinner prep. It's the right thing to do but I'm anxious about what that means for my career trajectory vs hers. Anyone navigate this kind of asymmetry?

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MMiles B.RegularJan 23

Make sure you actually talk through the household logistics before it becomes a problem. Otherwise you're gonna end up resenting the situation even though you're happy for her.

SSteve Q.RegularJan 23

I was in your position last year. The mental load shift is real. You're not just doing more tasks, you're becoming the default parent for scheduling and decision making. It's doable but you have to be intentional about it.

BBob M.RegularJan 24

This is the kind of partnership thing nobody really talks about. It's great that you're supporting her advance but also fair to acknowledge it changes your life too.

RRay C.RegularJan 24

Congrats to your wife, that's awesome. But yeah stepping up is the reality here. Have you two talked about what extra support actually looks like? Groceries, pickup duty, bedtime routine, etc.

JJoe R.New DadJan 22

The travel part is gonna be rough. How many nights a month are we talking? That changes things for who handles school stuff.

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