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Any recommendations for keeping your marriage alive with young kids?

Nov 29·1 min read

My wife and I are at like year 4 of having kids and we're kind of ships passing in the night lately. We're both exhausted, we don't talk about anything real anymore, it's all logistics and stress. Nobody tells you that having kids might wreck your relationship. We're trying to get a sitter once a month but even that feels hard now. What's working for you guys? We really need to figure this out.

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Comments(5)

RReggie T.New DadNov 30

The logistics conversation thing is so real though. Everything becomes transactional. My wife and I started asking each other actual questions at dinner like we used to, nothing fancy, just being intentional about it.

JJames H.RegularNov 30

Have you tried scheduling date nights? I know that sounds boring and unromantic but honestly when we started doing Friday nights no matter what it forced us to reconnect. Even if we're both tired we show up for it.

AAdam J.RegularNov 30

Year 4 is rough man. We're in year 5 and just started doing like 20 minute walks after the kids are in bed where we actually talk. Not about who needs to pick up who but like actual stuff. Changed things a bit.

TTom E.RegularDec 2

This hits different. We hired a babysitter for one night a month and it's the only thing keeping us sane. Just one night but it's ours you know?

TTony L.RegularDec 1

Ships passing in the night is exactly what we were doing. Turned things around when we stopped waiting for time to magically appear and just protected 30 minutes a day for each other. Sounds small but it compounds.