Getting Sober Changed Everything
3 years sober now. Used to be the guy who needed a beer after work every single day, then it became 3 beers, then I was drinking to sleep. My kids were scared of me sometimes. Now
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How life changed since becoming a dad. Identity shifts, things you miss, things you gained, the transformation of fatherhood.
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3 years sober now. Used to be the guy who needed a beer after work every single day, then it became 3 beers, then I was drinking to sleep. My kids were scared of me sometimes. Now
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