Went from a partier to a homebody and I'm weirdly okay with it

3d ago1 min read

My buddies still text me about nights out and I literally have zero interest anymore. Used to be the guy organizing bar crawls and staying out until 3am. Now the idea of that sounds exhausting and stupid. Had my first kid at 28 and something just switched in my brain. I still see my friends but it's like Sunday afternoon grilling instead of Saturday night ragers. I miss the carefree feeling sometimes and I miss being able to be spontaneous. But I gained so much more. I have someone who depends on me and wants me around. That matters in a way I couldn't understand before I was a dad. My old self would judge current me but I don't care.

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KKyleRegular1d ago

Nah it's not weird at all. You've got new things that bring you actual joy now. The nights out were fun but they're not even close to what matters anymore.

SSean M.New Dad1d ago

The funny part is when they finally get married and have kids they'll understand why you dropped off the radar. It's not that we're not fun anymore, we just found better ways to spend our time.

MMikeRegular1d ago

This is my life exactly. Used to be out every weekend and now I'd rather be home watching movies with my wife and kids. Your priorities just shift.

RRobertRegular3d ago

Same exact thing happened to me. My buddies thought I was joking at first but nope, I genuinely just want to be home. There's something about building a life with your kids that makes those party nights seem kind of empty.

SScott M.Regular2d ago

Same here honestly. My friends think I'm boring now but staying in with the family is infinitely better. No regrets at all.

JJason T.Regular2d ago

This is honestly the biggest shift that happens when you become a dad. I used to be out every weekend and now my idea of a good Friday night is getting the kids to bed early so I can watch something on the couch.