This is a rant. I hate that I can't just text friends and say 'drinks tonight?' anymore. Everything requires negotiation with my wife about whose turn it is, babysitter costs, bedtime schedules. My social life went from 'go with the flow' to 'spreadsheet management'. Some days I resent it hard.
The worst part is when you finally get a free night and you're so tired you just want to stay home. Being spontaneous takes energy you don't have anymore.
This right here. My buddies still do the random weeknight hangouts and I'm sitting there with a babysitter bill and bedtime schedules. Different life now.
I get the frustration but I've actually found some peace in accepting this phase of life. The spontaneity will come back eventually when the kids are older.
Yeah man this hits hard. I used to be able to just roll with whatever came up and now I'm scheduling friend time like it's a business meeting three weeks out.
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Welcome to parenthood. Your spontaneity got traded in for being the responsible one who has to arrange childcare before leaving the house. It's the deal we made.