Became a dad and had to completely rebuild my entire life

1w ago·1 min read

Got my college sweetheart pregnant at 20. Had no plan, no money, parents flipped out. Worked two jobs, got my degree part-time, became a construction supervisor by 28. My kid is 9 now and I'm stable. What I miss: sleeping past 6am, having money for stupid stuff, the freedom to just leave whenever. What I gained: purpose, man. Everything I do makes sense now. Also I actually like who I became. Younger me was kind of a disaster. Fatherhood fixed that.

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JJasonNew Dad1w ago

Respect for stepping up when everything fell apart. A lot of guys bail in that situation. How are things now? Did working those two jobs eventually pay off or just keeping your head above water?

PPhil M.New Dad1w ago

The college sweetheart angle hits different too. Glad you two made it work through all that chaos. Takes some serious commitment from both sides.

RRick J.Regular1w ago

Sounds like you didn't just rebuild your life, you built something real. That takes guts and I respect the hell out of that.

CCliff B.Regular1w ago

That's an incredible story, man. Two jobs, school, and still being there for your kid? Your college sweetheart and your parents probably see you completely different now.

GGarrettRegular1w ago

Man, this hits home. I was 22 when my daughter was born and had zero plan too. Those first few years of grinding were insane but honestly it forced me to grow up fast. Two jobs is rough though, did you eventually get to a better situation or are you still managing multiple gigs?

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