Became a solo dad after divorce and I'm not who I was

3w ago·1 min read

Two years ago I was married, working 60 hours a week, barely seeing my kids. Now I have them 50 percent of the time and work 45 hours. The money is tighter and I'm busier than ever, but I actually know my kids now. I know what their favorite foods are, their friend drama, their dreams. I miss the financial stability and having a partner, but I gained something real. My relationship with my kids is everything now.

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CChristopher M.New Dad3w ago

This is huge man. Going from barely seeing them to 50/50 is a complete flip. How are you managing the schedule change? That's got to be an adjustment for everyone.

CChris R.Regular3w ago

Juggling co-parenting and still finding yourself is tough work. The fact that you cut your hours down to be more present tells me you've got your priorities straight now.

RRich B.Regular3w ago

This resonates with me big time. Going from 60 hours a week to actually being present for 50 percent of their time is a game changer, even if the money part stings. Sounds like you're finally the dad you wanted to be.

JJayson H.New Dad3w ago

Solo parenting after divorce takes guts. You went through something tough and came out better on the other side. That's the kind of example your kids need to see.

SScottRegular3w ago

Respect for doing the work. Two years post divorce and you're not the same guy - that's growth. Your kids are getting the best version of you now even if it's part time.

KKyle M.Regular3w ago

The crazy work hours crushing family time is real. Glad you made the change. I know some guys who realized too late that 60 hours a week wasn't worth missing their kids growing up.