Became the dad I never had
My father was checked out emotionally my whole childhood. Worked 80 hours a week, came home tired, barely knew my name. I swore I'd be different. Now I'm coaching my kids' soccer, doing homework with them every night, actually listening when they talk. It's exhausting sometimes but in the best way. I miss having more alone time and not worrying about everything I do affecting three other people. But I've gained a life that actually means something. My 7 year old calls me his best friend and man, that hits different.
Proud of you for recognizing that pattern and changing it. Takes a lot of self-awareness to break that cycle. Your kids are lucky.