Divorced dad trying to rebuild - finally feeling like myself again

3w ago1 min read

Two years post-divorce and I'm finally not depressed all the time. The first year was rough, man. Thought I'd lost my identity. Went from married guy with a house to apartment living and 50/50 custody. But honestly? I've rediscovered who I was before marriage. Getting back into rock climbing, my friends actually see me now, and I'm not exhausted from being in a dead relationship. I miss having a consistent home for the kids though, miss tucking them in every night. Still working on that guilt. But I'm actually happy again and that feels wild to say.

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CChris F.Regular3w ago

Co-parenting after divorce is its own challenge, but I've learned that taking care of yourself first actually makes you a better dad to your kids. Sounds like you've figured that out too.

BBrad T.New Dad3w ago

Two years is solid work to get through that. The fact that you're talking about it means you're helping other guys who might be in year one right now feeling completely lost.

TTyler G.Regular3w ago

That's awesome man, really glad you found your way back. Being a new dad myself, I'm realizing identity is something that keeps evolving, but hearing you say you're feeling like yourself again gives me hope for the long game.