From always being the funny guy to actually being present

2w ago1 min read

Used to think my job was to make everyone laugh and keep things light. Realized about a year ago that I was using humor as a shield. My kids didn't need another comedian, they needed their dad. So I stopped cracking jokes during family dinner and actually asked about their days. Started playing board games instead of being on my phone. It's awkward sometimes because I don't have a joke to fall back on but man the conversations are deeper now. My oldest told me last week I was his favorite person to talk to. That hit different than any laugh ever did.

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SSam T.Regular2w ago

Why did the funny dad become the present dad? Because he finally got the joke. But seriously, this is real growth right here.

BBradRegular2w ago

Being present hits different once you realize your kids remember the moments, not the punchlines. Good on you for making that shift. It's harder than it sounds.

JJamesRegular2w ago

This resonates so much. I used to be the same way - always had to be on, always cracking jokes. Then one day my kid asked me to just sit and watch them color instead of entertaining them. Changed everything for me.