From Divorced Dad to Blended Family - Finding New Normal

Mar 31 min read

Got divorced when my son was 4. Thought my family was ruined. Spent 5 years co-parenting as best I could, feeling like I failed. Then met my now wife who has two kids. Suddenly I'm learning to be a stepdad to her kids while still being the present dad to mine. It's messy and complicated but also beautiful. I miss the simplicity of my first marriage but I don't miss who I was. I gained perspective that families come in different shapes. My son sees me building something new and healthy and I think that matters more than pretending his mom and I should have stayed together.

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SSteve K.RegularMar 4

This is huge. A lot of divorced dads give up on the idea of a family life but you kept building something. Your son is lucky to have a dad who didn't check out.

MMarcusRegularMar 3

Co-parenting takes a lot of maturity and you're clearly doing the right thing for your son. Blended families can actually be really great when everyone's on the same page like you are.

KKevin M.RegularMar 3

Five years of co-parenting your way to a blended family that works is a real accomplishment. Takes patience and honestly a thick skin sometimes.