From divorced dad to man with his life together - 3 years later

2w ago1 min read

Three years ago I was sleeping on my buddy's couch, paying child support I could barely afford, drinking too much on weekends. Started going to therapy because my ex said I needed to get my act together or I'd lose the kids. She was right. Got a decent job, moved into a small apartment, started running again. Now I have the kids 4 days a week. My 8 year old asked me yesterday when I was getting married again and I laughed and said slow down buddy, Daddy's just learning who he is first. I don't miss the booze or the drama but man do I miss the illusion that I had it all figured out. Turns out I had to lose everything to actually build something real.

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Comments(6)

NNolan D.Regular1w ago

Dude. This is incredible. Three years is a long time to turn things around like that. The fact that you're here sharing this tells me you're in a completely different headspace. What was the biggest shift for you?

RRick M.Regular1w ago

This gives me hope. Seriously. I'm still early in the co-parenting journey and some days feel impossible. The fact that you went from the couch to 'life together' means it's possible. Did you have a moment where things clicked or was it gradual?

RRyan M.Regular1w ago

Respect man. Takes real strength to rebuild like that, especially when you're paying support and starting from nothing. That's the kind of dad story that matters.

TTyler M.New Dad2w ago

Man, respect. Takes real courage to own where you were and then actually do the work to change it. Your kid is lucky to have a dad who cares enough to get better.

EEvan M.New Dad2w ago

Dude this is awesome. Still early for me with my 4-year-old but stuff like this reminds me why I'm trying to stay on top of things now. You should be proud of yourself.

DDerek M.New Dad2w ago

This is incredible man, seriously. I'm only a few months into this dad thing and seeing someone turn it around like this gives me so much hope. Props for getting the help you needed.