From Party Guy to Dad of Three - Don't Recognize Myself Anymore

3w ago1 min read

Five years ago I was that guy hitting bars every weekend, sleeping till noon on Saturdays, spending money on stupid stuff. Now I'm falling asleep at 8pm watching my kids play video games and getting excited about a good deal on diapers. Honestly I miss the spontaneity sometimes. Like just calling buddies and going on a road trip without planning everything three months out. But man, the feeling when my oldest asked me to help with his school project instead of asking his stepmom... I never knew I could feel that way about anything. Not trading this back for all the late nights in the world.

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EEvan M.Regular3w ago

Five years into this myself and yeah, the bar scene feels like it was someone else's life. But honestly the payoff is so much better. Those kids give you purpose in a way weekend parties never could.

SSteve C.Regular3w ago

I just became a dad two months ago and I'm already learning that the old party guy version wouldn't recognize the new me either. Sounds like you found something better though.

DDavidRegular3w ago

Three kids and you're still standing - that's the real party right there. The sleep schedule change is real but totally worth it.

JJakeNew Dad3w ago

Falling asleep at 8 sounds like a win to me. That's a dad who's actually tired from being there for his kids, not tired from partying. Real talk - you're doing it right.

AAdam R.Regular3w ago

This is real. I went through something similar after my second kid. The late nights out and sleeping in til noon just doesn't appeal to me anymore. Now I'm excited about Saturday morning pancakes with the kids instead. Different kind of fun.

JJake M.Regular3w ago

You didn't lose yourself man, you found out what actually matters. I know it feels different now but that growth is real. The party guy is still in there somewhere, just with better priorities.

RRick M.Regular3w ago

The transformation is wild when you think about it. I was the same way before fatherhood hit me. You don't lose yourself though, you just evolve into a version that matters more. Don't mourn the old guy too much.