From party guy to present dad

19h ago1 min read

Been reflecting this morning on who I was before kids. I was the guy going out every weekend, sleeping in until noon, only responsible for myself. Getting my oldest diagnosed with anxiety last year was a wake up call that being physically there isn't enough, I needed to be emotionally present too. Put down the phone, cut back the nights out, started actually showing up for my kids in ways that matter. I miss the freedom sometimes but gaining the respect and trust of my kids has been worth way more than any Saturday night ever was.

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Comments(6)

JJosh M.Regularjust now

The funny part is how fast it happens. One day you're the party guy and the next you're debating whether your kid's bedtime should be 7:30 or 8. It's a trip.

CChris M.Regularjust now

The party guy version of you couldn't do what you do now though. Two totally different lives. I'm guessing you don't miss it as much as you thought you would?

SScottRegular9h ago

Same man. I used to be that guy at the bar and now I'm excited about a good night's sleep. No regrets though, this is way better.

JJosh M.Regular8h ago

That reflection hits different when you become a dad. I was the same way - every weekend was about me. Now I'm planning backyard stuff with the kids on Saturday nights and honestly it's better.

JJosephNew Dad1h ago

Being present is the ultimate upgrade. You're modeling for your kids what it means to show up.

JJayson H.New Dadjust now

Man I feel this in my soul. I was out til 2 AM on weekends and now I'm calculating if I can squeeze in a nap before soccer practice. The transformation is real.