Getting sober changed everything about who I am

5d ago·1 min read

3 years clean as of yesterday. I'm not the same person I was. Old me was angry, unreliable, my kids barely knew me. I missed my daughter's first day of kindergarten because I was hungover. Now I'm present, I show up, I remember things. I rebuilt my marriage. I get hugged by my kids now instead of them hiding from me. The identity shift was brutal but necessary. If anyone is struggling with addiction, I just want to say it gets better if you actually commit to change.

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SSteveRegular4d ago

Three years is incredible, man. Seriously. The fact that your kids get the reliable version of you now? That's everything. Takes a lot of strength to turn it around like that.

DDavid R.Regular5d ago

This hits hard. My kids are seeing me show up differently too, just from different changes. But what you did takes actual courage. Congratulations on three years clean.

SSteveRegular4d ago

Three years is huge. Congratulations man. That's the kind of thing that changes everything for your kids too. They get to see their dad actually present instead of checked out.

FFelix R.Regular4d ago

Being reliable for your kids is everything. I spent years being that angry unreliable guy too before I got my act together. Your kids are lucky they get the version of you who's actually here.

CChris M.New Dad4d ago

That's the real win right there - being someone your kids can count on. Angry and unreliable is what I never wanted to be for mine. Proud of you for doing the work.

JJasonRegular4d ago

This hits different when you're a parent. Before I had kids I could mess up and only hurt myself. Now every choice matters because they're watching and learning. Glad you found your way.