Got sober 18 months ago and becoming a real dad

3w ago1 min read

I was a disaster. Drinking every night, missing my kids' stuff, lying to my wife constantly. My oldest wouldn't even look at me and honestly I deserved that. Started going to meetings and actually doing the work instead of just saying I would. It's been the hardest thing ever but my kids look at me different now. My daughter asked me to help with her science project last month and I almost cried. I missed so much of their lives being checked out. I'm not gonna pretend I'm father of the year now but at least I'm actually HERE. Still miss parts of the old me sometimes but that version of me was killing everyone around me. Sober dad is way better.

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RRexRegular3w ago

18 months is huge man, seriously. Kids notice when you show up and stay present. Your oldest will come around, just keep being consistent. Proud of you for doing the work.

EEli L.Regular3w ago

That takes real courage to own up to it like that. The fact you're here and aware of what you missed means you're already a different person than before. Keep going.

MMike R.New Dad3w ago

Four kids here and I've learned that kids are forgiving when they see you actually changing, not just saying you will. Sounds like you're putting in the work and that matters more than you think.