Got sober 18 months ago and finally feeling like a real dad

2w ago1 min read

Posted here before but wanted to update. I was drinking every night, missing stuff, being a terrible husband and father. My kid didn't even want to hug me. Rock bottom hit hard. Been in AA, go to meetings, got a sponsor. The man I am now vs who I was is like two different people. My family actually wants to spend time with me again. I miss the numbing feeling sometimes when things get stressful but I don't miss waking up with blackout shame or my son asking why daddy smells like beer. If anyone's thinking about getting help just do it. Your kids need the real you not the version you think is easier.

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Comments(7)

CChris M.Regular2w ago

Man, that's the work right there. Not just quitting but actually stepping into fatherhood the way you should. Your kids are lucky to have you getting this right.

AAl G.Regular2w ago

Real talk, this post probably means more to someone struggling than you know. Thanks for being honest about where you were and where you are now.

JJakeNew Dad2w ago

18 months is a serious accomplishment. The fact that your kid wants hugs again says everything. Keep crushing it.

DDerek P.Regular2w ago

This is huge. I don't get my kids every day but when I do, I show up sober and present and it changes everything. Proud of you for doing the work and being the dad your kid deserves.

MMatt B.Regular2w ago

This is real inspirational stuff. Takes guts to post an update like this. The kids notice when you're present and sober. They remember it. Keep being that real dad for them.

JJosh M.Regular2w ago

This is what it's all about. Welcome to actually being present. It's hard but it's worth it and I'm genuinely proud of you for putting in the work.

JJustinRegular2w ago

Congrats man. Seriously. That's huge and the fact that you're showing up differently for your kids now is everything. Those 18 months of work is going to pay dividends for years. Keep going.