Got Sober 2 Years Ago - Never Thought I'd Be This Dad

3w ago1 min read

Used to spend weekends at bars, always had a beer in my hand. My ex said I was a good dad but I wasn't the dad I could be. Got sober basically for my kids and myself. The change was instant for some things, slow for others. First month was brutal. Now I have hobbies, I'm actually present, I remember conversations with my kids. I gained clarity and my relationship with my older kids is way better now that they're old enough to understand. What I miss? Honestly nothing anymore, that's growth right there. What I'm grateful for is my kids got their dad back while they were still young enough to know the difference.

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JJoeyRegular3w ago

Stories like this remind me why we do this. Being present for your kids matters way more than anything else. Congrats on 2 years. That took real work.

DDerek M.Regular3w ago

This is huge man. Two years is real work and your kids are getting the best version of you now. That takes serious courage to own what needed to change.

AAlexNew Dad3w ago

Co-parenting two kids here and I gotta say, recognizing you could be better and actually doing something about it is what separates the good dads from the great ones. Props to you.

TTom M.Regular3w ago

This hit different for me. My ex used to say the same thing but I know I was checked out. The fact that you committed to the change and stuck with it for 2 years is everything. Respect.

JJosh M.Regular3w ago

Two years is incredible. That's not just sobriety that's a whole life rebuild. Your kids probably don't even remember the old version and that's the point. You're the dad they're gonna talk about as adults.

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